Saturday, May 09, 2020

CoViD-19 Diary: The Grief Is Real | Remembering Scott Huchison | Creating Public Spaces

Scott Huchison of Frightened Rabbit at the Belly Up 5.21.2016

I had a rough day. Darren and I had a speakeasy night in the studio last night and I was still up at sunrise, so that was fun, but in the meantime, my neighbors assassinated the bushes that are on our side of the fence. Yes, they have the right to cut anything over the fence, but they did this horrible hack job that literally looks like they did it with kitchen scissors and cut way into our side, where the bushes originate. This is not the first time they've done this, yes they'll grow back, but they're always full of sparrows and I'm pissed. And on World Migratory Bird day!! This is coinciding with my landlord's repainting without notice, so the painters have moved all of our stuff and I was afraid they'd scared Bun Bun off, but luckily we saw him/her next door in the empty lot, so at least there's that. I didn't see my butterfly today, either, but I wasn't in the yard until late afternoon so hopefully it comes back around tomorrow. But my mood is so all over the place, triggered by missing butterflies, sparrows,  and the yard rabbit, seething at neighbors and distant relatives, and raging at covidiots online, and then just falling into this incredible sadness because today is the 2 year anniversary of Scott Huchison's death and his brother Graham wrote the most heartbreaking tributes on his blog and Instagram that just broke me. I still have a draft post that I wrote when he'd gone missing and was subsequently found that I've never been able to finish, and certainly never posted, now two years later. More after the jump.

  • I posted this before, but thought it worth the reshare:
    • Dr. Regina Koepp, clinical psychologist of the Emory University School of Medicine Department of Psychology and Behavioral Sciences:  “We’re in this kind of emergency state and everybody’s destabilized. It’s really scary, and we’re experiencing loss because we’ve lost our sense of security. The other thing that makes COVID-19 really tricky is that the destination isn’t clear. With anticipatory grief, we’re not anticipating that we’re going to be grieving. We’re in the process of grieving before we actually lose the thing. You don’t get to choose if you’re grieving. If you have a friend who’s going through a major transition, they’re not gonna say, ‘Dude, I’m totally grieving right now. I’m going to do this major shift in my life,’ because we don’t have language for that as a society. They’ll probably say, ‘Dude, I’m so stressed out right now. I don’t really feel like hanging out. I’m drinking too much.” But the reality is he’s grieving.” - Fatherly 4.14.2020
    • That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief - Harvard Business Review 3.23.2020
  • Remember the other day when I got all high and mighty about abolishing golf courses? Well, I'm not the only one who thinks we should, though this article addresses other open spaces including parking lots, cemetaries, golf courses, extending park hours/adding lights, and mixed-used school and university sites. 
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